In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I speak with Sergio, a 43 year old bisexual male slave who spent years in a religious cult, and the last four in celibacy.
We talk about erotic reclamation after cult life, redefining intimacy through BDSM, and the complex dance between submission and healing. From shame and silence to power exchange and surrender, Sergio offers a rare, reflective glimpse into the erotic psychology of someone rebuilding from the inside out.
p.s After recording, I learned that Sergio is now in a healthy and loving BDSM relationship. A beautiful evolution of the story you’ll hear today.
We explore:
What makes someone identify as a slave—not just a submissive
The psychology of celibacy and erotic suppression
BDSM as a tool for healing and self-reclamation
The long arc from indoctrination to intimacy
Finding erotic power after religious shame
Research Discussed: I Was Taught to See Sexuality as Something Evil: A Qualitative Study on the Impact of a Cult Childhood on Sexual Development
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Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm
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