#19 The Switch Within: Mind Games & the Psychology of Role Fluidity

In this episode, I sit down with Lou, a 38-year-old switch who describes her sexuality as fluid and fiercely psychological.

We discuss:

• What it means to be a switch in BDSM and the freedom of role fluidity

• Mindfucking and psychological dominance as erotic tools

• The inherited lineage of kink when your mother is also in the scene

• How switching fosters deeper erotic self-knowledge

• Common misconceptions about switches and how Lou navigates them

• Her approach to reading a partner’s readiness in dominance

• The power of submission in unlocking hidden parts of self

Research Article: ⁠Switch it up’: A Qualitative Analysis of BDSM Switches⁠

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